You’re the groom facing the prospect of being roasted by your closest friends and family members. Whether you’re pumped about a night on the town with the boys, or trembling in your boots at the thought of surviving your bachelor party, this guide is for you.
Usually, the task of organising the bachelor party falls to the best man. While you, as the groom, should be involved to some extent, you shouldn’t have to do the bulk of the organising. After all, the whole point of the bachelor party is to show you a good time, not to test your planning skills. Aside from putting the whole shindig together, the best man is responsible for ensuring that you don’t do anything that will jeopardise your impending nuptials. Whenever there is a combination of guys and alcohol, peer pressure comes back like an ex-girlfriend from junior college, so the best man needs to be on the ball to make sure you don’t do anything too crazy. As if that’s not enough, the best man is also in charge of making sure everyone is included and having a great time. It’s a lot of responsibility, but it doesn’t mean the best man can’t have fun too. After all, it is a party!
When to party?
any day at all, but under no circumstances should your bachelor party be held the night before your wedding. Typically, the bachelor party is held on the second last Friday or Saturday night before the wedding, or two to three weeks in advance.
Mild versus Wild
Before the party proper, discuss the tone of the evening with your best man. Defining the tone in advance is important since it will not be possible to do so on the night of the party. At the end of the night, you want a party that’s going to be a blast for you and keep you out of the dog house with your princess. Keeping in mind that your best man isn’t likely to know all of the attendees, setting the tone will also help the best man give guests a heads-up in terms of what to expect.
A mild bachelor party and wild bachelor party are likely to start out the same. You and the boys will invariably go out for a nice dinner; what happens after dinner distinguishes this bachelor party from any other. It’s up to you how wild it will get.
Who to invite?
You and the best man should also sit down and hash out the guest list. As a general rule, twenty is a good number. Anything more than that, and it will be too difficult to control if things get out of hand.
One of the easiest ways to coordinate the bachelor party is with a Whatsapp chat group, an e-vite, or better yet, create an event on Facebook. That way, the best man can let everyone know what’s on the agenda for the party, while the event page can also help him keep track of who will be attending.
Get a room!
Whether you are having a mild or wild bachelor party, we highly recommend that you not return to your actual home after the late partying. Spend the extra cash and get a room. The next morning you can recover on your own, without having to worry about what your bride will think. It’s a critical but often overlooked piece of advice.
What happens in Vegas (or anywhere else)...
Nothing will ruin a wild bachelor party like talkative Tony blabbing all about it to his girlfriend who is best friends with your bride. What happens at the wild bachelor party stays etched in memory alone. It’s an unspoken rule.
One of the best parts of planning a bachelor party is keeping the groom in the dark about some of it. Once the best man and the groom have laid out the ground rules for the night, the best man will feel free to plan some surprises within that framework. You didn’t specifically say that you won’t put on a dress and beg hot chicks for kisses? Too bad for you. you need to be ready to dive in and roll with any surprises that come your way.
Stay out of the doghouse
We’ve heard more than our share of stories about drunken grooms stumbling home to their bride, or worse, their future mother- in-law. A good best man will have a plan laid out to prevent a situation that could best be described as “awkward”. That said, you are a man. If there is something that you don’t feel comfortable with, you should express it to the best man in advance of the bachelor party.
You’re only going to get one shot at having a bachelor party. Get ready for the ride of your life!
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